Stop Learning The Hard Way

Being a public speaker isn’t easy when you’re trying to change people’s lives, and they’re looking at you like you’re an idiot.

At that point you are an idiot!!

Perhaps you just like to learn the hard way.

My dad once said, “I’m not going to show you how to do anything anymore Devin, because you learn the hard way anyway.”

Let’s take for example my burned “motivational speech.” Before that speech I was on a roll. Adult audiences would tell you that I could say or do no wrong. That fantasy sure came crashing down as a jam-packed class of high school students sat staring at me like, is this guy for real?

The lesson is: Know Your Audience.

Public speakers know that best practices include knowing what kind of audience you are walking into. Many good questions to ask organizers can be found on Google.

I asked the organizer two questions; when and where?

Naturally I reflected on how speakers stress the above lesson, but I was also thinking about turning my blindness into a funny intro.

Well… it wasn’t a funny intro. It was LAME!!

Bad intro, bad speech, that’s how I feel.


Everybody knows that the best way to make a stranger become your friend is to humour them. Humorists need jokes. If your jokes aren’t funny, use someone else’s.

You can Google jokes. I found these jokes in one second:

  1. Just changed my Facebook name to ‘No one’ so when I see stupid posts I can click like and it will say ‘No one likes this’.
  2. What’s the difference between snowmen and snowladies? Snowballs
  3. What do you call a bear with no teeth? — A gummy bear!

Feeling better already.

Ah well, I’ve had to write off far more embarrassing situations, like the time I got drunk at my friend’s wedding and started kicking cars in the parking lot.

I had to deal with people calling me about dents in their cars. That’s life long shame.

[easy-tweet tweet=”Sometimes life throws you a hard ball down the strike path and you miss it. ” user=”@DevinBisanz”]

Later you look back and realize life went on. You just keep on surviving no matter what.

I know some people who believe you dictate your future. Other people believe your future is dictated for you. I peg somewhere in the middle. I believe there are rules, and if you know the rules you can bend them your way.

Now the way I see it there are two ways to learn the rules; study them and oblige, or get caught breaking them. You thought you found easy money, a judge thought otherwise, now you know. You thought you had a funny speech opening, it wasn’t, now you know. The important thing is that


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Some people just like to learn the hard way, do you?




Devin Bisanz- author of ‘How To Super Charge Your Brain’ (get it here)

Something you probably don't know about me. I was wheeling my street bike down the highway when I flipped over backwards. My street bike slid under an oncoming semi-truck, and I narrowly escaped death.

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